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About Family Men: One Key To A Strong Marriage And A Good Sex Life
| Men: One Key To A Strong Marriage And A Good Sex Life |
| Written by David Zook |
| Monday, 21 September 2009 16:26 |
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Conflicts happen. Disagreements are a part of life. Anger, disappointment, unmet expectations, being let down and miscommunication are all things that happen as sure as the sun rises in the east. I have also met people who are still married, but their relationship is so deeply damaged because there hasn't been any reconciliation, that their marriage remains miserable, joyless and sexless. All they can see are their spouse’s faults and the hurts they’ve caused. If you think being single is lonely, then talk to a person who is in a miserable, joyless and sexless marriage. Men, if you want a strong marriage with good and joyful sex, you must make it a habit to keep short accounts with your wife. If you have an argument, if at all possible (caveat: some hurts, like adultery, will take some time to work through), settle it before you go bed. "Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil." (Ephesians 4:26 ESV) Your wife has little desire to give herself to you if you are not reconciled after a fight, so reconcile. Remember, conflicts in marriage give us opportunities to play who wants to be a Christian. (hat tip to David Wayne) Will you rise above all the stuff and work through the conflict to become united again? Or will you take the path of least resistance, and slowly drift further apart? It takes a godly man to do the former and a weak-kneed, excuse-ridden boy to do the latter. Remember that God is with you and will strengthen you to be that godly man. Lean on him during these times ... he favors the humble and opposes the proud. (James 4:6 ESV) You must take the lead. So eat your humble pie and get on with it. Start by apologizing and asking for forgiveness. Show honest remorse for the mess you have made and vow to work on making it not happen again. Reconciliation may take time, depending on the depth of the wound, so don’t expect everything to be okay overnight. Remember, it gives the devil great joy to mettle in and weaken our relationships. He wants to neuter us so we do not threaten his work here on earth and one of the ways he does that is through your relationship with your wife. Keep the devil at bay and your marriage and sex life strong by reconciling with your wife in a timely manner. |
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Marriage is Like Dancing
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Tuesday, 22 September 2009 16:08
Emily Barlean
Great post David! It reminds me of Concordia Publishing House's book "Marriage is Like Dancing" (http://bit.ly/3mjKD8) a great book by Richard Eyer that talks about how to support a good marriage. Keep posting!
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