A Physical for the Christian Soul

This is huge for a man. If you want to keep your husband’s eyes on you and not a another woman, then the first step is to respect your husband.

Men need respect as women need love. The easiest way to get a man’s attention is to take an interest in who is then believe in him. The dirty little secret is that men have a difficult time living without a woman.

Think about Adam and Eve for a moment. Adam told God that out of all the creatures that God just created, there was not a help-mate suitable for him so God created one … from Adam. Adam’s reaction: Whoaaaaa! At last! I will call her woman because she came from man. (Genesis 2:23)

Men have an intrinsic need for women. The woman who respects him for who he is and what he does will get his attention … married or not. Scripture points out: “…and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” (Ephesians 5:33 ESV)

It seems this is the way many affairs get started. The husband is not getting the respect he needs at home (often times unbeknownst to him) and another woman begins to respect him in ways his wife is not.

• Do I belittle him?
• Do I routinely second guess his decisions?
• Do I consistently go around his back to do what I want, regardless of his opinion?
• Do I talk about his faults in front of our children, family, or friends?

Admittedly, it will difficult to respect your husband if he has neglected you; cheated on you; or abused you. If this you, then I would suggest that you find a gospel-centered counselor. The counselor will be able to help you untangle the web through the lens of the Gospel where repentance, forgiveness, strength, and victory reside.

Begin to show your husband respect. If he follows God’s design:

1. He will shower you with love and honor that you will fill your soul.
2. You will grow closer.
3. Your love will be deeper.
4. Your romance hotter.
   
5. And God will receive the glory for following his design while your relationship will be held up as an example to others.

So, where is the downside?  Get to it ... like now ... and may you be your marriage be blessed. 

Men – what do you think? Is this post on track? What’s been your experience?

Women – what do you think? What’s been your experience?